Simon Helberg’s Howard Wolowitz underwent one of the most transformative arcs in The Big Bang Theory. From a self-proclaimed ladies’ man with questionable antics to a loving husband and father, Howard’s character growth was a highlight of the series. However, his journey wasn’t without its pitfalls—particularly in his relationship with Melissa Rauch’s Bernadette.
One episode in Season 4, The Hot Troll Deviation, pushed Howard’s inappropriate behavior to new heights and left many fans feeling that Bernadette deserved better.
Howard’s Darkest Moment: The Hot Troll Deviation
Howard and Bernadette’s relationship wasn’t always smooth sailing, and the Season 4 episode The Hot Troll Deviation put their dynamic to the test. In this installment, viewers learned that Bernadette had previously dumped Howard after discovering he’d been engaging in cybersex on World of Warcraft. His online escapades involved “Glisinda the Troll,” a virtual doll, who turned out to be a greasy older man working in Facilities Management.
Though Howard attempted to dismiss it as a harmless online indulgence, many fans saw this as emotional cheating—a betrayal of Bernadette’s trust. The revelation felt like a major red flag, making it completely understandable that Bernadette ended their relationship at the time.
While the couple did reconcile later in the episode, The Hot Troll Deviation cemented Howard’s reputation as the “undisputed god of perverts.” It also left viewers wondering if Bernadette should have walked away for good.
Howard’s Flaws in the Early Seasons
Howard’s pervy tendencies weren’t limited to this one episode. Throughout the early seasons, his behavior often veered into uncomfortable territory, both in his romantic relationships and his friendships. From using their joint finances to splurge on a $5000 3D printer without consulting Bernadette to refusing to collaborate with her professionally, Howard didn’t always act like the ideal partner.
While his antics were often played for laughs, they also highlighted his immaturity and selfishness. At times, it felt like Bernadette was settling for someone who wasn’t ready to be in a committed, respectful relationship.
Simon Helberg on Melissa Rauch’s Impact
Despite Howard’s questionable behavior in earlier seasons, Melissa Rauch’s portrayal of Bernadette brought depth and heart to the series. Even Simon Helberg acknowledged the transformative impact of her character on both his role and the show as a whole.
In an interview with co-star Mayim Bialik (via Dr. Mayim Bialik), Helberg credited Rauch and Bialik for elevating The Big Bang Theory to new heights:
“You’re either being modest or overlooking something. A fundamental part of the shift was you coming on the show. And Melissa. You guys came on the show, and the show grew an extra heart. The show that people remember is of the seven of us.”
Helberg’s praise underscores how Bernadette’s inclusion not only added a fresh dynamic to the series but also helped Howard evolve into a more likable, multi-dimensional character.
Howard’s Growth and Redemption
While The Hot Troll Deviation highlighted Howard’s most unflattering traits, it also served as a catalyst for his eventual growth. Over time, he became a devoted husband and father, leaving behind much of his inappropriate behavior.
Bernadette’s strong-willed and no-nonsense nature played a significant role in Howard’s transformation. Her presence in his life pushed him to mature, proving that their relationship, while imperfect, ultimately made Howard a better person.
