Carroll O’Connor had ”a very stressful relationship” with All in the Family producer Norman Lear
The tension behind one of the best shows of all time.
Some of the best creative partnerships are fraught with hardships. There’s a tension that’s necessary in creating great art. George Martin, famous producer of Beatles records, described the Lennon-McCartney dynamic as “two people pulling on a rope, smiling at each other and pulling all the time with all their might.” Keeping the rope taught in the middle is exactly what led to so many collaborative wins. However, that same tension ruins the friendship at the center of all those great songs.
Lennon and McCartney were equals in the Beatles, but the energy is very different when the two parties are on unequal footing. A great example is the creative relationship between Norman Lear and Carroll O’Connor. Throughout the production history of All in the Family, these two titans of television battled for creative control of the series. Lear, as producer, had more impact on each script before it was delivered for the table read. However, O’Connor, as the show’s lead, was very vocal in his displeasure towards many of the initial stageplays.
“It was a very stressful relationship,” Lear told HuffPost Live in 2014, “but it was joyfully stressful because it always turned out to be great. I don’t know if I can say that for Carroll — I don’t know if he was built to accept the idea of joyful stress,” Lear said. “But we had a victory at the end of every show because we made 250 people sitting in that audience laughing.”
Lear further explained the situation in his memoir, Even This I Get to Experience, describing some of O’Connor’s troublesome behavior on set:
“Carroll sat down to every reading worried and unhappy. It seemed to make little difference whether his problems with the script turned out to be few or many, small or large. Most of the time we’d hear, “It just doesn’t work.” He wasn’t always wrong, of course. But much of the time we were facing fear, a fear that could render Carroll unable to deal with…For the next eight years, Carroll will continue to dislike every script at the start. It was nothing but fear and blind anger was his only defense. Certainly, he bettered many a scene with it, but it needn’t have taken his belligerence to get there.”
While the painstaking back-and-forth certainly creates some headaches for the people who worked on All in the Family, the results are undeniable. The series is one of the greatest of all time, and wouldn’t have been the same without either individual’s input.
Luckily, too, the relationship between Lear and O’Connor was mended by the early 2000’s.
Lear wrote, “At [O’Connor’s] home on his desk — which was a clear, clean desk — there was a letter I had written him four years ago, in which I blessed him for what he meant for Archie and [said I ] was sorry we had the kind of dissents that stressed him so much,” Lear said. “And he kept it on his desk. It was the only thing on his desk, and it had been that way for some time.”
